Alison Davies
Dec 21, 2022

This has been a hot topic for many of my clients and students. Extreme number of healers are experiencing Healer Burnout since the beginning of the pandemic. However, it has been around for decades, maybe even centuries.

I know first-hand what it is like because I experienced it in an epic way this past year. I do not mean the “I am really stressed” kind of feeling, but the kind where you are emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausted at the soul level. I was only functioning in survival mode. I begin to feel powerless and questioned everything, including myself. I let it get so bad I wanted to quit. But my inner healer wouldn’t let me. I seriously contemplated it for about a day before I reached out for help. In the past I would have tried to figure it out alone. Shame would hold me back because I am a healer and should know what to do. Or I would tell myself that others have it worse, I should be grateful.

You may be there yourself or are on the brink of burning out.

Signs and symptoms of burnout (not limited to):

  • Mind is everywhere, yet nowhere (racing mind)
  • Short tempered
  • Quitting is not an option, but you think of it often – life is too short; then I would have time to do things I want to do
  • Always doing for others and do not feel appreciated
  • Trouble sleeping – too much or too little, never feel like you got good enough sleep
  • Feeling exhausted, anxious, or depressed – no spark
  • Always feel there is not enough time
  • Feel like an imposter – cannot help yourself how can you help others
  • Forgetfulness
  • Inner Critic telling you are “not good enough” 24-7 (or some version of that)
  • Digestive issues
  • Procrastinate on almost everything
  • Feel stuck and frustrated
  • Lost touch with why – hear yourself saying, “who cares”
  • What use to work to move you through this feeling doesn’t work anymore
  • You feel lost and powerless

If you are experiencing some or all of these (or more), then it is a sign that something needs to change.

You convince yourself that doing for others, fills your cup. And it does. Up to a point.

Where our beliefs came from.

Our society celebrates those [women] for selfless service who neglect themselves. That doing for others at the expense of ourselves says you are a good person. Not to mention, little girls are taught that nurturing and caring for others with little or no time for self is a requirement to be a good mom, daughter, and wife. That’s without even bringing in all the expectations of being a single mom.

I am not bashing how I was raised because my mom did the best she could with the resources she had. She loved me, celebrated me and was there for me. I remember rebelling against all of this as a teenager but woke up at age 37 wondering who I was. Where did my kids end, and I begin? I was a stay-at-home mom for 18 years. Not to mention having a special abilities daughter who took much of my focus and attention. Pouring all of me into her and my son, with no time for me. Not because I didn’t make the time, I didn’t even think about taking time for me. Taking time for myself would be…well, “selfish” and make me one of those self-important moms.

You can imagine the conflict that arose when I went to school and work at age 40. Not only with those in my family, but within myself. The part of me that wanted more and the part that was consumed with guilt. There was the constant inner chatter of things saying I was not a good mom and too old to be successful entrepreneur. Who was I to become a CEO and Institute head of an international learning institute that focused on training and transforming healers’ lives?

If not me then…who? Left to my own devices I wouldn’t have uncovered and released many limiting beliefs around the hidden ways I thought I should be. Imagine how empowered I feel in learning my value, my worth building on each bold baby step, each success.

How does “do it all” mentality affect those you love energetically?

I learned that doing continuously for others at the expense of me, drained my life force. It put me in survival mode. You cannot thrive when you have gotten to this point. No real surprise there. BUT what was surprising for me was that when you are drained, you must get it from somewhere or someone…. you begin to take from those you love, your clients or co-workers. Whom ever gets close to you really.

This made me gasp in horror.

What I have learned along the way is that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but strength. And when you get to the level of burnout, you cannot do it alone. You really have no choice but to ask for help. If you could do it on your own, you would have already done what you needed to. I had to ask for help, because even with all my tools, techniques, and gifts I could not see what was underneath it all – at the unconscious level. I have also found that when you get to that point, all the things that worked in the past don’t anymore. Everything in my day became
hard because I was challenging my thought process every 30 minutes. It was exhausting to be positive.

I have a new saying now.

When you are doing it all, it is at the expense of yourself. I am the leader of my family and what would I be teaching my kids if I didn’t make the time for me now (prioritize my mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health). I make time every day to do something just for me. Something that allows me to feel joy again. Some days or weeks are better than others. I am not going to lie. Hey, I am human (and a work in progress). Many learning moments as I go through the journey of life.

I put it in my calendar. It isn’t selfish, but required in order to have a happy, joyous life. It is necessary so I can do the work that is very much needed today – magnifying the light of healers. To help those out of the darkness because times are changing, and more are being awoken today.

If you are struggling with healer burnout, value yourself and those you love and ask for help. It is the most selfless thing you can do.

I look forward to hearing your healing journey so far.

Love & Sunshine

Alison Davies

Transformational Healer & Trainer

Certified Trainer in Neurolinguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy and Hypnotherapy

Asking for help is a sign of courage. Reach out and book a time to discover your healing journey roadmap. Email at alison@aya.coach or book directly on my calendar. https://calendly.com/awakenyourawesomeness/healing-journey-roadmap-call-